Sunday, December 29, 2013

FREE OF REACTING

I'm being serious.  I have almost mastered the art of not having to be right, or needing to react to others, no matter what.   I decided that Reacting to others is totally up to me. Not reacting is freeing and requires nothing of anyone else.  Not reacting is a third way to be in the world.  The first and second require taking sides, deciding who is right and who is wrong.  Not reacting, the third way, demands I see through your eyes and mine, simultaneously.  I do not have to woman up or man up to
stay connected, or in relationship with you. 

This third way is a relief.  I can go to a place inside me where I do not have to be right,  prove anything or even insist you hear my side of things.  I'd like you to. yet, if you are unable to hear me, or see my perspective, at least I can practice feeling old reactive sensations in my body, knowing I will be fine, and free, if I hold space for you.  Just hold space. Meaning, I will listen and hear you (for a few minutes), and hold no requirement that you be able to hear me.  The third way has no requiremnt of fairness.

This is my personal work.  It's about stepping back from learned beliefs not my own.  It is a daily practice.  It can be fun to go beyond what I think emotionally possible.   I am a bit more free now.